About this episode

Julia Stoller shares her experience of coming out to her father and discovering a new side of him.

Julia Stoller loved her dad. But she never wanted to be him. He was a rule follower, he was so serious, and he was so straight. Then, when Julia was in her 20s, she got a phone call that completely changed her idea of who her father was. And as he opened up to her, sharing secrets he had been holding onto for decades, she was finally able to open up to him, too. This week on “Modern Love,” Anna talks to Julia about what happened when she had to get to know a whole new version of her dad, and what she learned about herself in the process. You can read Julia’s original story in the Modern Love column.

People in this episode

Host: Anna

Guest: Julia Stoller

Topics covered

• coming out
• father-daughter relationship
• self-discovery
• family secrets
• identity

Keywords

• coming out
• father
• identity
• secrets
• self-discovery
• family

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