About this episode

Heather Hester discusses the emotional challenges parents of LGBTQ kids face due to the comparison trap and offers insights on navigating these feelings.

Get the Panic to Plan Guide here There is a particular kind of pain that does not announce itself loudly. You see another parent who seems to have it figured out, who has been advocating longer, speaking more fluently, loving more visibly. And something in you goes small. You know that feeling. This episode is for that moment. The comparison trap hits parents of LGBTQ+ kids in a specific and painful way. Because this journey does not come with a clear map, a certification, or a moment where someone tells you that you are doing it right. So we look around. We measure. We try to locate ourselves on a scale that was never designed for what we are actually doing. In this episode Heather Hester gets honest about her own experience with the comparison trap, including a recent moment that caught her completely off guard, and unpacks the lie underneath it that feels so completely true in the moment. In this episode you'll learn how to: * Name the lie underneath the comparison trap before it takes hold and pulls you under * Understand why comparison hits parents of LGBTQ+ kids with a particular intensity and what is actually underneath it * Return to your own specific story, your specific…

People in this episode

Host: Heather Hester

Topics covered

• comparison trap
• parenting LGBTQ kids
• self-acceptance
• personal stories
• emotional support

Keywords

• LGBTQ
• parents
• comparison
• support
• emotions
• parenting
• self-worth

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