Ask Yourself a Better Question: How to Cope When Life Throws You a Curveball

About this episode

Steve Kay and Kali Fraser discuss how to cope with life's setbacks by asking better questions.

A positive attitude won’t cure everything — but it certainly helps with a lot. Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK. In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle something every one of us deals with… setbacks. From rising bills and stormy commutes to lost clients and the end of relationships, life has a habit of sideswiping us when we least expect it. So what separates the people who spiral from those who bounce? According to Steve and Kali, it often comes down to one deceptively simple habit – asking yourself a better question. Steve shares a real example from the business: a telemarketer called during a training day to say a council client was about to cancel three leadership programmes due to redundancies. The old Steve would have panicked. Instead, he asked himself “How can I improve the situation?”, fired off a quick email during his coffee break, and turned a potential loss into an ongoing conversation. That one question – asked in the right state – changed everything. They also dig into why negativity is the path…

People in this episode

Hosts: Steve Kay, Kali Fraser

Topics covered

• setbacks
• positive attitude
• personal responsibility
• negativity bias
• self-improvement

Keywords

• setbacks
• positive attitude
• negativity bias
• personal responsibility
• self-improvement

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: NLPUKTraining.com

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