#263: How to Stop Obsessing About Someone

About this episode

This episode discusses the reasons behind obsessing over someone who has rejected you and how it often reflects on one's self-perception.

"How do I stop obsessively ruminating about the person who rejected me?" is one of the most frequently asked questions I receive — and in today's episode, we're talking all about why it's so easy to fall into the trap of fixating on someone who didn't choose you. Whether it's the situationship that never became anything more, the person who ghosted you or left you without warning, or something in between, the experience of obsessing over someone is familiar to many of us. But as we'll talk about, it's often less about them, and more about what we make it mean about ourselves. Links Subscribe to my Substack: https://stephanierigg.substack.com/ Free break-up training: http://stephanierigg.com/hl-webinar-opt-in Free training for anxious attachment: http://stephanierigg.com/haa-webinar-opt-in

People in this episode

Host: Stephanie Rigg

Topics covered

• obsession
• relationships
• rejection
• self-worth
• rumination

Keywords

• obsessive thinking
• breakup
• anxious attachment
• ghosting
• situationship

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