FFS, Just Invite People Over To Your Messy House

About this episode

The episode discusses the challenges of parenting, the fear of judgment in hosting, and the rituals parents engage in to cope with time.

This week on Parenting Out Loud, we're joined again by Luca Lavigne, so of course things went off without a hitch. 👀 Stacey Hicks, Amelia Lester and Luca are here to unpack the rise of 'Trimester Zero,' and why the over-optimisation of parenting our kids is officially getting out of hand.  Plus, is the art of 'gathering' officially dead? Are we too scared of judgement, toddler tantrums and messy living rooms to accept anyone into our home? And at what point did hosting become synonymous with performing?  And, the 'creepy' parenting rituals we all have to try to hold on to time, and why sushi in our kids' lunchboxes is the latest humble brag. Our Recommendations: ⛸️ Stacey is obsessed with Glitter & Gold: Ice Dancing on Netflix.  🐎 Amelia recommends All Her Fault on Binge and horse riding (sort of). 🎧 Luca is loving the Spotify DJ , the AI playlist that can get you out of that listening rut. Support independent women's media What To Listen To Next:  Don't miss an episode of  Parenting Out Loud So, Yeah. Turns Out THIS Is The Very Last Parenting Taboo Michelle Obama’s Parenting Truth Bomb & A Middle Finger To Mothers The Beckham Family…

People in this episode

Hosts: Stacey Hicks, Amelia Lester, Ruth Devine, Tessa Kotowicz

Guest: Luca Lavigne

Topics covered

• Trimester Zero
• over-optimisation of parenting
• gathering
• hosting
• parenting rituals

Keywords

• messy house
• toddler tantrums
• sushi in lunchboxes
• AI playlist

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Glitter & Gold: Ice Dancing, All Her Fault, Spotify DJ

Books & works: Glitter & Gold: Ice Dancing, All Her Fault on Binge, Parenting Out Loud

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