E258: Weed, Alcohol, and Sex: What's Actually Happening to Your Body and Desire

About this episode

The episode explores how alcohol and marijuana affect sexual desire and intimacy, sharing personal experiences and community insights.

Whether it's a glass of wine to take the edge off or a gummy to get out of your head, a lot of people use substances to feel more relaxed, more connected, or more in the mood. But there's a lot more happening under the surface than most people realize. In this episode, we're pulling back the sheets on how alcohol and marijuana actually affect desire, arousal, communication, and orgasm — including some real talk from our own experience and candid responses straight from our Pillow Talks community. 💛 In this episode, you'll hear: Why we're upfront about our bias as sober people — and why some of our worst sex happened while intoxicated The real reasons people turn to substances for sex What our community shared about their own experiences — from laughing too hard to try anything, to not being able to orgasm at all The dangers that don't get talked about enough: impaired judgment, consent confusion, emotional flattening, and how substances can make it harder to get aroused, get wet, get hard, or finish The long-term patterns to watch for, including building a dependence on substances just to feel intimate Is sober sex awkward at first? What to do if your libido is low and you're…

People in this episode

Hosts: Vanessa Marin, Xander Marin

Topics covered

• substance use
• sexual desire
• alcohol
• marijuana
• intimacy
• communication
• orgasm

Keywords

• sex
• substances
• intoxication
• libido
• arousal
• consent
• sober sex

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Pillow Talks

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