Guardrails or Walls? Moving from Sexual Aversion to Healthy Intimacy in Recovery

About this episode

The episode discusses the transition from sexual addiction to sexual numbness and the challenges faced in recovery.

Episode 321 addresses a vulnerable question from a man in recovery who fears he may have “overcorrected”—moving from sexual addiction to sexual numbness. After establishing over a year of sobriety, he wonders if suppressing his sexuality has led to aversion rather than health. We explain that this phase is not uncommon. Sobriety is essential, but it is only the beginning. When years of compulsive behavior have rewired the dopamine system, removing intense stimulation can initially feel flat. ...

People in this episode

Hosts: Steve Moore, Mark Kastleman

Topics covered

• sexual aversion
• healthy intimacy
• recovery
• sobriety
• sexual addiction

Keywords

• sexual aversion
• healthy intimacy
• recovery
• sobriety
• sexual addiction
• dopamine system
• compulsive behavior

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