About this episode
Alex, a nonbinary person, explores their relationship with their straight cis husband Henry and discusses identity and desire with two other guests.
The case of the person who worries their husband still sees them as his wife. Alex is nonbinary, and their husband Henry is a straight cis man. Henry has been supportive through every step of Alex’s transition — pronouns, testosterone, top surgery — but Alex worries: if Henry is straight, does that mean he still sees Alex as a woman? In this episode, we find Alex two proxies: Elvis, a trans man who transitioned inside his long-term relationship, and Ryan, Elvis’s straight cis husband. Together, they talk about labels, desire, dysphoric sex, and the tender, terrifying question underneath it all: will you still want me if I change? New to Proxy? Try Bisexual Wife Guy for another story about identity changing inside a relationship, or Yowei Can't Speak Bro , about the emotional rules of people who say “that’s cool." For episode liner notes, show gossip, and dispatches from the emotions beat, get our free newsletter File Under Feelings at proxyhq.org . Proxy is an independent show, supported mostly by listeners. Paid members get bonus episodes, ad-free listening, live Proxy hangs, and the satisfaction of keeping emotional investigative journalism alive 🍏 Follow us on Instagram —…
People in this episode
Host: Yowei Shaw
Guests: Alex, Elvis, Ryan
Topics covered
- nonbinary identity
- gender transition
- relationships
- sexuality
- dysphoria
- support
Keywords
- nonbinary
- cisgender
- gender transition
- relationships
- dysphoria
- sexuality
- support
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Proxy, Y3 Productions
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