Why Life Works Better When You Stop Trying to Control It

About this episode

This episode explores how life works better when one stops trying to control it, featuring insights from James Eder on intuition and serendipity.

The podcast series explores a game-changing understanding of the human mind that operates “Before Psychology” — the secret source that exponentially increases peace, performance, and potential for any individual or organisation. Why Some People Seem Lucky (And It’s Not What You Think). This conversation is an exploration of something many people already sense — but rarely trust. Most people assume that if life isn’t working, they need to try harder, think better, or fix something about themselves. But what if the opposite is true? In this episode of the Quality of Mind podcast, Piers Thurston is joined by entrepreneur and author James Eder, whose has been shaped by a sequence of opportunities, connections, and breakthroughs that seem to arrive when he’s not forcing them. As you listen just notice when something feels lighter — and when it feels effortful. That contrast is the point. In James new book the Collision Code he recounters his stories of finding himself in moments of clarity, flow, and serendipity — often without trying to make them happen. Together, Piers and James explore: Why intuition feels obvious after the fact but hard to trust in the moment How effort and…

People in this episode

Host: Piers Thurston

Guest: James Eder

Topics covered

• control
• intuition
• clarity
• serendipity
• effort
• outcomes

Keywords

• control
• intuition
• serendipity
• effort
• clarity
• outcomes
• performance

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: the Collision Code

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