About this episode

Colter talks with Dr. Diane Heller about attachment styles and their impact on relationships.

Join us in Relationship Academy to continue the conversation! ⁠ 7 day free trial and then get the founders rate of $25/month Take Dr. Heller's Free Attachment Quiz Clean out your closet by downloading VINTED for free! In this episode of Relationship Advice, Colter talks with Dr. Diane Heller about anxious, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized attachment patterns. They explore why these patterns are often intelligent survival strategies—not character flaws or relationship “red flags”—and how early relational wounds can shape the way people experience closeness, conflict, and love. Dr. Heller explains that everyone has an innate capacity for secure attachment and that understanding these patterns can help partners respond with more compassion instead of blame. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People in this episode

Host: Colter Bloxom

Guest: Dr. Diane Heller

Topics covered

• attachment styles
• relationship dynamics
• emotional intelligence
• compassion in relationships
• early relational wounds

Keywords

• anxious attachment
• avoidant attachment
• relationship advice
• secure attachment
• emotional patterns

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Relationship Academy

Products: VINTED

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