Everything That Comes Before Intimacy with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith

About this episode

The episode explores the concept of true intimacy and the factors that contribute to disconnection in relationships, featuring insights from relationship experts Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith.

What does “true intimacy” actually mean—and why do so many couples feel disconnected even when they love each other? In this episode, we sit down with Matthew Raabsmith and Joanna Raabsmith, relationship experts and co-authors of Building True Intimacy, to unpack the deeper layers of connection most relationships are missing. We dive into their Intimacy Pyramid™ framework—a powerful model that explains why so many relationships struggle at the foundation and how couples can rebuild safety, trust, and emotional closeness from the ground up. From the tension between secrecy and privacy to the complicated realities of checking a partner’s phone, this conversation gets honest about what actually builds (or breaks) trust. We also explore what happens after betrayal—and whether it’s truly possible for a relationship to come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to rebuild closeness, this episode gives you a clear path forward. Key Takeaways: True intimacy defined Love vs connection gap Intimacy Pyramid basics Secrecy vs privacy Trust after betrayal One small shift Give Me Discounts! ⁠⁠⁠AG1⁠ - ⁠⁠AG1 has become my go to every morning. ⁠⁠⁠Beducate⁠⁠⁠ - Use…

People in this episode

Hosts: Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, Cayla Bozovich

Guests: Matthew Raabsmith, Joanna Raabsmith

Topics covered

• intimacy
• relationship dynamics
• trust
• emotional closeness
• betrayal
• connection

Keywords

• intimacy
• trust
• relationship advice
• emotional connection
• secrecy vs privacy
• Intimacy Pyramid
• betrayal recovery

Sponsors

AG1, Beducate, Cozy Earth

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Building True Intimacy

Products: AG1, Beducate, Cozy Earth

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