Savage Love Episode 1021

Savage Love Episode 1021

From Savage Lovecast by Dan Savage

June 2, 2026 · 53 min · Episode 1021

About this episode

The episode discusses complex relationship dynamics, including a woman's dilemma over a tantric opportunity and the implications of age differences in dating.

A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway? A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it? On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of nonsense. Dan brings on science journalist Sadie Dingfelder to look into the matter. And, a man dated a woman, broke up, came out, and remains very good friends with his ex. She feels like his platonic but important partner. He had a boyfriend for a while, but the guy was a bit of a dullard and couldn't hold a candle intellectually to his female bestie. Can he find a partner who will accept his gal pal as a part of his emotional life? Record your question and send it here: Q@Savage.Love Or call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to Quince.com/SAVAGE for…

People in this episode

Host: Dan Savage

Guest: Sadie Dingfelder

Topics covered

  • relationships
  • sexuality
  • friendship
  • power dynamics
  • hypnotism
  • long-term partnership

Keywords

  • tantric opportunity
  • power imbalance
  • hypnotism
  • friendship
  • long-term partner

Sponsors

Quince, Helix Sleep, Squarespace

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