About this episode
The episode discusses the application of the Buddhist concept of dukkha to relationships, emphasizing the beauty in challenges and practical tools for conflict resolution.
In this episode, I talk to Devon and Nico Hase about their book, This Messy, Gorgeous Love . We explore how the Buddhist concept of dukkha , or inherent unsatisfactoriness, applies to relationships, reframing difficulty not as a sign of failure but as a natural and even beautiful aspect of partnership. Key takeaways include understanding that relationships are inherently challenging, the importance of "deep listening" to ourselves, our partners, and the space between us, and redefining patience not as passive resignation but as active, courageous engagement with difficulty, or "patience with teeth." This approach offers practical tools for navigating conflict, such as understanding different conflict styles (volcanoes, diplomats, and dodgers) and practicing regular "check-ins" to foster deeper connection and understanding in our messy, gorgeous lives. Explore more at eightfoldpath.com : full transcripts, guided meditations, courses, and Noah AI, an AI you can chat with about any episode or teaching. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
People in this episode
Host: Noah Rasheta
Guests: Devon Hase, Nico Hase
Topics covered
- relationships
- Buddhism
- dukkha
- conflict resolution
- deep listening
- patience
Keywords
- dukkha
- relationships
- conflict styles
- deep listening
- patience
- check-ins
- Buddhism
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: eightfoldpath.com
Books & works: This Messy, Gorgeous Love
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