About this episode

Serena Kerrigan joins Ilana Dunn to discuss modern dating, rejection, and the importance of trusting oneself in relationships.

Serena Kerrigan, founder of Let’s Fucking Date and author of Let’s F cking Date*, joins the podcast for a long-overdue reunion — five years after she was one of the first guests on Seeing Other People. We talk about why modern dating needs a new rulebook, how to stop dating from a place of scarcity, why rejection doesn’t mean something is wrong with you, and what it looks like to actually trust yourself and move on when someone isn’t giving you what you want. Plus, Serena shares what she’s learned about repeating dating patterns, raising your standards without becoming too picky, being open-minded about who your person might be, and why the right person won’t be scared off by you saying you want something serious. We also get into healthy relationships, maintaining independence, handling conflict, social media comparison, feeling like you’re running out of time, and knowing when choosing yourself means walking away. Get Serena’s book: Let’s F cking Date* — letsfuckingdate.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Guest: Serena Kerrigan

Topics covered

• modern dating
• rejection
• trusting yourself
• healthy relationships
• independence
• dating patterns

Keywords

• dating
• rejection
• self-trust
• healthy relationships
• independence
• dating patterns
• social media comparison

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Let’s Fucking Date, Seeing Other People

Books & works: Let’s F cking Date*

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