Seeing Other People

What if the way we experience dating and relationships has less to do with the other person and more to do with the state we’re in when we experience them? Dr. Sue Morter joins Seeing Other People to talk about how our internal state, nervous system, and relationship with ourselves can shape the way we communicate, make decisions, respond to triggers, and connect with other people. We talk about what happens when we’re operating from fear, anxiety, or the need to be chosen, and how becoming more grounded in ourselves can change the way we show up in relationships. Dr. Sue walks us through practical grounding techniques, including deep belly breathing, posture, and Mula Bandha, and explains how practicing these tools can help us get out of our heads and become more present in our bodies. We also talk about breaking patterns, changing the way we respond to difficult relationship dynamics, knowing when to stay or leave, and why the question might not be “How do I find the right person?” but “How do I become the right person for me?” Dr. Sue MorterInstagramYouTubeAll links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever been so focused on whether someone likes you that you forgot to ask yourself if you even like them? In this solo episode, I’m breaking down how easy it is to confuse validation, attention, and the excitement of being chosen with actually liking someone. We’ll talk about why dating can start to feel like an audition, how to shift your focus from “Do they like me?” to “Do I like them?”, and the questions to ask yourself after a date to figure out how you really feel.All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you constantly thinking you should be married by now, should be over your ex, should know how you feel after a few dates, or should be further along in your life Dr. Lucette Beall joins me to break down what all of this “shoulding” actually does to our brains and how it can impact the choices we make in dating and relationships. We talk about societal timelines, learning to separate what you actually want from what you think you’re supposed to want, trusting yourself when dating, and how to stop measuring your life against everyone else’s.All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ilana and Jake are coming to you from a rainy weekend in the Hamptons with lots to catch up on: Ilana officially understands football, someone finally offered her a subway seat at six and a half months pregnant, she took her glucose test, and they toured their first daycare. Then, they get into your listener questions about how to stop internalizing rejection as proof that you weren’t “enough,” whether you can really stay close friends with someone who rejected you, wedding etiquette when your ideal date is close to a family member’s wedding, and what to do when you’ve spent three years in a situationship, know he’s not your person, but still can’t bring yourself to let him go.All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stefanos Sifandos, relationship coach, speaker, and author of Tuned In and Turned On, joins Seeing Other People to talk about what happens after you find the right person. We dive into why a relationship isn’t the finish line, how healthy relationships can bring unresolved patterns to the surface, and how to tell the difference between something you need to work through and something your partner needs to change.We also talk about knowing yourself before dating, finding alignment in values instead of relying on a checklist, and why sometimes the best thing you can do for your dating life is pause dating altogether. Stefanos shares how to navigate conflict, communicate your needs, move through a fear of being alone, and stay connected through major life transitions. Plus, he shares the relationship advice that has stuck with him most: don’t contort yourself to impress someone else. Find Stefanos at tunedinandturnedonbook.com, stefanossifandos.com and @stefanossifandosAll links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

An anonymous guest joins the podcast to talk about navigating a long-term relationship in a big city — from taking their first trip together just two months into dating, to moving in together before getting engaged, to ultimately buying a home together.We talk about the pressure of the “relationship escalator,” making major decisions on your own timeline, navigating family members who don’t understand your choices, and how communication, trust, and knowing when something feels right can matter more than doing things in the “right” order.All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ilana and Jake catch up on baby prep, their first stroller arrival, Ilana’s newfound obsession with baby clothes, Jake’s thoughts on being married to a content creator, and why apparently having a twin bed until age 26 builds character. Then, they get into your listener questions. If they were single today, how would they actually go about finding their person? They talk dating apps, singles events, meeting people organically, getting set up by friends, and why going out with the sole mission of meeting someone might actually make dating harder. Plus, they weigh in on a messy Hinge situation: is your ex’s friend fair game?Shop Joolz strollers at www.joolz.com and check out our Joolz Aer² lightweight stroller!All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEStock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeopleGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s Ilana’s birthday weekend, the Jets are (almost) back, and somehow the Jonas Brothers might be helping us reveal our baby’s gender?! We’re talking about how our very unserious idea turned into a viral campaign that actually got Joe and Kevin Jonas’ attention, plus birthday plans, the weird guilt of posting on social media when you haven’t texted people back, and a conversation about choosing to have kids, choosing not to have kids, and whether enough people actually stop to think about what they want. We also revisit Camp Rock with some very important questions about Connect 3, debate whether Spider-Man could realistically get around NYC, and start Ilana’s very necessary Jets reeducation.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.