how to be a b*tch — why being nice is sabotaging your entire life

About this episode

This episode discusses how being overly nice can sabotage personal goals and self-esteem, advocating for a more self-possessed approach to life.

you already know how to be a b*tch. parts one, two, and three gave you the tools. part four goes somewhere the others never did. this one is about the bigger picture. why being nice is quietly sabotaging your goals, your self-esteem, your energy, and the company you keep. why your body is paying a physical price for every emotion you've swallowed to keep the peace. why the women who get treated well in relationships aren't always the kindest...they're the most self-possessed. and how to build a daily life that actually reflects the woman you are becoming, not the one you were conditioned to be. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO: 01:06 Chapter 1: Good Girl Syndrome 07:34 Chapter 2: The New Mindset 16:05 Chapter 3: The Bad B*tch Lifestyle 🛍️ SHOP & LINKS: Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide! SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL MANIFESTATION JOURNAL PODCAST INSTAGRAM LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS ORDER MY BOOK THE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER STAY CONNECTED: MY INSTAGRAM MY SNAPCHAT [BTS] MY YOUTUBE MY VLOGS MY OTHER LINKS For business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.com Music Used: *my intro and outro music was made by the incredible…

People in this episode

Host: Tam Kaur

Topics covered

• self-improvement
• assertiveness
• emotional health
• relationship dynamics
• personal growth

Keywords

• good girl syndrome
• bad b*tch lifestyle
• self-esteem
• emotional health
• relationship advice

Sponsors

Abbott Lyon

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Organizations: Abbott Lyon

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