Why You Get Anxious During Sex (Even When You Want It)
About this episode
This episode explores the reasons behind anxiety during sex and how different parts of oneself can create inner conflict.
You want sex. You care about your relationship. But when things actually start to happen… something shifts. You get in your head. You feel anxious, disconnected, or unsure of yourself. And sometimes, you walk away wondering why it didn’t feel as good as you hoped—or even feeling shame or guilt. In this episode, I’m joined by sex therapist and Certified IFS Therapist, Patricia Rich, to unpack what’s really going on beneath that experience. Because it’s not just about libido. And it’s not something you can fix by trying harder or “being more confident.” We’re diving into how different “parts” of you can take over during sex—pulling you out of the moment, creating tension, and leaving you feeling disconnected from your own desire. Once you understand this, everything starts to make a lot more sense. 💡 What You’ll Learn Why anxiety shows up during sex (even when you genuinely want it) How “parts” of you can override your desire and create inner conflict The difference between being present vs. going on autopilot during sex Why you might feel regret or disconnection afterward A simple way to start reconnecting with yourself in the moment Chapters 00:00 Introduction to IFS and Sex…
People in this episode
Host: Heather Shannon
Guest: Patricia Rich
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