
The One Activity All Couples Need To Do
From Sex, Here & Now by sexhereandnow
April 28, 2026 · 14 min · Episode 41
About this episode
This episode discusses the Yes, No, Maybe list exercise to enhance sexual self-awareness and communication in relationships.
What if one simple exercise could completely change how you understand your sexuality and communicate your desires? In this episode of Sex, Here & Now, I break down one of the most foundational tools I use with clients and one that I believe everyone should try: the Yes, No, Maybe list. This deceptively simple exercise helps you explore your sexual interests, boundaries, curiosities, and limits by sorting experiences into three categories. While it sounds straightforward, the impact can be profound. The Yes, No, Maybe framework builds sexual self awareness, reduces shame, and creates a shared language for consent and communication in relationships. I walk you through how the exercise works, why “I don’t know” is actually a valid and important answer, and how this practice helps individuals and couples move away from guessing and toward clarity. We also talk about how mismatched desires are not relationship failures, how curiosity strengthens intimacy, and why consent is something that evolves over time rather than something decided once. Whether you are single, partnered, monogamous, or non monogamous, this episode offers a practical way to better understand your erotic map…
People in this episode
Host: sexhereandnow
Topics covered
- sexuality
- communication
- consent
- self-awareness
- intimacy
- relationships
Keywords
- Yes No Maybe list
- sexual interests
- boundaries
- curiosities
- consent
- intimacy
- self-awareness
Sponsors
sex therapy continuing education
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