Why You Get Anxious Before Interviews, Dates, and Presentations (It's Not What You Think)

About this episode

Dr. Aziz explores the underlying fear of disapproval that contributes to anxiety in social situations.

What do job interviews, first dates, presentations, and social gatherings all have in common? They're all situations where someone could disapprove of you — and your nervous system knows it. In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down the single pattern running underneath all social anxiety and performance anxiety: the fear of disapproval. He explains why your brain fills uncertainty with doom predictions, why those predictions feel so convincing, and why the solution isn't about becoming more impressive — it's about building your capacity to be in the unknown. This episode is part of a series of new discoveries Dr. Aziz has been making about how our relationship with approval shapes everything — our confidence, our conversations, our careers, and our relationships. More on that in the coming episodes.

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Aziz

Topics covered

• social anxiety
• performance anxiety
• fear of disapproval
• confidence
• uncertainty
• relationships

Keywords

• anxiety
• interviews
• dates
• presentations
• social gatherings
• confidence
• disapproval
• uncertainty

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