Self-Differentiation: The Lifelong Practice of Being "Separate and Connected"
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This episode explores the concept of self-differentiation and its importance for leaders and personal development.
Gabi Space: Self-Differentiation - The Lifelong Practice of Being "Separate and Connected" In this insightful episode of "Gabi Space," join us for a profound conversation with Gabby as we explore self-differentiation , a concept critical for leaders and for navigating our daily lives. Gabby introduces self-differentiation, rooted in family systems theory , as the lifelong practice of being "separate and connected" . It's about recognizing our individual distinctness while acknowledging our constant interaction with and need for others. This isn't a destination, but an ongoing journey with "no arriving". Key themes and insights from our conversation include: • Understanding Your Experience: We often get into trouble by blaming others for our feelings, saying things like "you make me so upset". A core part of self-differentiation is asking: "Who is actually creating the upset here, or the joy, or the happiness?" . • The Model of Experience: Gabby shares a helpful model from Jervis Bush's "Clear Leadership," which breaks down our experience into observations, thoughts, feelings, and wants . A common challenge highlighted in coaching is confusing our feelings with our thoughts, often…
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