Handling raw emotions: staying grounded in co-parenting with Jay Skibbens

About this episode

Jay Skibbens discusses emotional regulation and co-parenting challenges in blended families.

This week on Stepmom Side Chats , we sit down with co-parent coach Jay Skibbens for a conversation that goes deep, like identity-shifting, nervous-system-resetting deep. Jay shares his powerful personal story of discovering that the children he had been raising weren’t biologically his and how that experience reshaped his understanding of resentment, emotional regulation, and what co-parenting really requires. From carrying years of anger to learning how to “cook his emotions first,” Jay breaks down why so many blended family conflicts aren’t actually about the kids: they’re about unprocessed triggers. This episode challenges the scripts we’ve all been handed about co-parenting. It’s not about winning. It’s not about controlling the other house. It’s about learning how to stay grounded when the triggers hit, because in blended families, they will. If you’ve ever felt dysregulated on transition day, resentful about schedules, frustrated with your spouse, or triggered by the other home, this conversation is for you. You can find Jay on instagram at @jayskibbens or through his membership, The Grounded Coparent University. The Grounded Coparent University is a private membership…

People in this episode

Hosts: Alyssa, Becca

Guest: Jay Skibbens

Topics covered

• co-parenting
• emotional regulation
• blended families
• personal growth
• conflict resolution

Keywords

• co-parenting
• emotional triggers
• blended families
• resentment
• transition day

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Grounded Coparent University, Patreon

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