Understanding Your Enneagram as a Stepmom with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober

About this episode

A discussion with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober on how understanding your Enneagram type can enhance self-awareness and compassion in stepmom life.

In this episode of Alyssa & Becca, we sit down with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober, an Enneagram coach and speaker, to talk about how understanding your Enneagram type can help you navigate stepmom life with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion. We get into how different Enneagram types respond to conflict, triggers, boundaries, people-pleasing, resentment, and relationship dynamics, especially inside blended families. We also talk about why stepmom life can feel so emotionally layered, how your core motivations shape the way you react, and what it can look like to better understand both yourself and the people around you. Whether you are the stepmom who overthinks everything, takes things to heart, avoids conflict, or feels like you always have to prove yourself, this conversation offers insight into why you may respond the way you do and how that awareness can help you move through blended family dynamics with more intention. We also answer a listener question and share practical takeaways for stepmoms who want to better understand their triggers, communication patterns, and emotional responses. Connect with Ashton: Instagram : @enneagramashton Website…

People in this episode

Hosts: Alyssa, Becca

Guest: Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober

Topics covered

• Enneagram
• stepmom life
• self-awareness
• blended families
• emotional responses
• communication patterns

Keywords

• Enneagram type
• stepmom dynamics
• conflict resolution
• triggers
• boundaries
• people-pleasing
• resentment

Sponsors

Big Ass Candles, Cozy Earth

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Patreon, Instagram

Books & works: Understanding Your Enneagram as a Stepmom

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