About this episode

A conversation with Dr. Tolu Oko Igaire about intimacy, relationships, and the cultural taboos surrounding them in Nigeria.

The Truth About Therapy, Intimacy & Sex That No One Talks About – Dr. Tolu Oko Igaire In this bold, eye-opening, and deeply honest conversation, Tolu Afilaka sits down with Dr. Tolu Oko Igaire — one of Nigeria’s leading voices in mental health, sex therapy, and emotional wellness. As Provost of the Institute of Counseling in Nigeria and a renowned sex therapist, Dr. Tolu brings rare expertise and vulnerability to topics most Nigerians shy away from. From her unique journey as a former food scientist to becoming a trailblazer in sexual and emotional health, she breaks down the cultural taboos, misconceptions, and silent struggles affecting relationships and intimacy in our society. This episode goes beyond surface-level advice. It’s a raw exploration of the real issues couples and individuals face but rarely discuss openly. What We Discussed: How therapists carry heavy emotional loads without breaking down The dangerous difference between empathy and emotional projection Why many Nigerians struggle with intimacy and emotional connection The real reasons relationships and sexual lives suffer in our culture Her personal journey from a church girl and food scientist to sex…

People in this episode

Host: Tolu Afilaka

Guest: Dr. Tolu Oko Igaire

Topics covered

• orgasm
• intimacy
• Nigerian relationships
• mental health
• sex therapy
• cultural taboos

Keywords

• orgasm
• intimacy
• Nigerian relationships
• mental health
• sex therapy
• emotional wellness
• cultural taboos
• sexual dysfunction
• emotional intelligence

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Institute of Counseling in Nigeria

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