Thats my Time with Tolu Afilaka

Nigeria needs more people speaking sense, not nonsense.That was one of the first things Engineer Dari Aliyu said in this conversation.And honestly, it set the tone for everything that followed.Most people know Dari Aliyu as the founder of TDA, one of Nigeria's most respected fashion brands.What many don't know is the story behind the success.He lost his father at the age of two. He was raised by an uneducated mother. His older siblings sacrificed everything to keep the family together. He earned a scholarship into King's College, studied engineering in Russia under one of the toughest education systems in the world, and eventually built a brand that thousands admire today.But this conversation is bigger than fashion.It's about education, discipline, faith, value creation, poverty, success, ambition, family, entrepreneurship and the mindset required to build something meaningful from nothing.Dari shares lessons from his childhood, why he believes school is still important, why success is often misunderstood, how Russia shaped his thinking, the sacrifices behind TDA's growth, and why the pursuit of value matters more than the pursuit of money.If you're a student, entrepreneur, young professional, founder, creator, or simply someone trying to build a better life, this episode is packed with practical wisdom. Much of the discussion centers on education, discipline, value creation, overcoming hardship, and building a meaningful life through consistent effort and personal responsibility.This is not just a conversation about business. It's a masterclass on life.Sound Minds PodcastHosted by Tolu AfilakaWhat was your biggest takeaway from this conversation?CHAPTERS00:00 – Why Nigeria Needs More People Speaking Sense, Not Nonsense01:33 – Meet Engineer Dari Aliyu02:25 – Losing His Father At 2 & Growing Up With Nothing04:19 – Why School Is Not A Scam07:50 – The Biggest Misconception About His Background10:07 – How His Mother & Siblings Saved The Family12:24 – Winning A Scholarship Into King's College15:56 – The Harsh Reality Of Studying In Russia18:58 – Inside One Of The Toughest Education Systems In The World21:07 – Why He Returned To Nigeria Instead Of Staying Abroad23:42 – His First Job & Lessons About Money27:19 – The Definition Of Success Most People Get Wrong32:46 – How TDA Was Started36:39 – Building A Fashion Brand Like An Engineer39:35 – Why Society Celebrates The Wrong Things42:56 – Growing TDA Through Difficult Times47:58 – Surviving COVID & Reinventing The Business51:17 – Meeting His Wife & The Power Of Divine Timing54:30 – Success, Failure & Personal Growth58:22 – Faith, Purpose & Finding Direction01:02:18 – Protecting The TDA Brand & Building New Ventures01:05:47 – The Principles That Changed His Life01:09:57 – Final Advice For Young Nigerians Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deeply introspective and emotionally charged episode of That’s My Time Podcast, Tolu Afilaka sits with Olushola Olaleye for a profound conversation about masculinity, vulnerability, spiritual responsibility, success, pain, leadership, and the silent emotional battles men fight daily.From the first moment, it becomes clear that this episode is not entertainment it's therapy, mentorship, and revelation wrapped into one. Whether you’re a man trying to understand yourself or a woman trying to understand men, this conversation will shift your mindset forever.Olushola Olaleye takes us through the story of his calling, the spiritual nudges that shaped him, and the mentorship of Pastor Emmanuel Iren that grounded and refined his purpose. He speaks openly about his mother’s sacrifice after losing his father, the humility she instilled, and how her resilience became the foundation of his emotional and spiritual maturity.This episode explores childhood wounds, the pressure of parental expectations, how success is actually maintained, and why self-leadership not talent—is the true mark of greatness. We dive into masculinity, male emotional repression, why men struggle to open up, and the staggering reality of suicide among men worldwide.The conversation goes deeper into relationships, marriage preparation, adulthood, societal pressure, and the burden many African men carry. Pastor Olaleye confronts cultural misconceptions, unlearning toxic masculinity, empathy for men, and how emotional maturity is essential for building healthy homes.We also touch on AI’s disruption of jobs, what young Nigerians need to survive the future, and the kind of leadership he would implement if he were president.This episode is raw, insightful, confronting, and healing. Share it with every man and every woman who loves a man.TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – 15:00 The Calling, The Presence & Early Spiritual Nudges• Introduction to Pastor Olushola Olaleye• Tolu reflects on his grace, presence, and spiritual weight• How Olaleye knew he was called from childhood15:00 – 30:00 | Childhood Pain, His Mother’s Strength & Foundations of Masculinity• Losing his father and watching his mother carry the family• Lessons of humility, tenderness, compassion• How pain shaped his emotional intelligence• Accepting spiritual responsibility early• How upbringing prepared him for deeper leadership• The moment he realized he was born different30:00 – 45:00 | Convincing Parents, Building Track Record & Understanding Real Success• How to make your parents trust your choices• Why many young adults fail at communicating with parents• Track record: the language parents understand45:00 – 60:00 | Male Vulnerability, Emotional Repression & Suicide Awareness• Where men’s emotional pain comes from• Why the pain of men is invisible in society• Emotional maturity: can women handle the truth?• Why we MUST be kinder to men• Men vs women: emotional processing differences• SLK being underrated & men who feel unseen• Why men should cry more—even if not as much as women1:00:00 – 1:39:00 | Brotherhood, Marriage Pressure, AI Disruption & Hope for Nigeria• Why every man needs a brotherhood circle• What it means to “chest" things as a man• Teasing SLK about never dating• Financial pressure of marriage preparation for men• How to prepare for marriage the smart way• Major on the minor: principles for adulthood• AI disruption and job loss—how to survive it• Why AI is about knowledge application• Is there hope for Nigeria?• What Pastor Olaleye would do if he were president• Final thoughts & blessingsQUESTION FOR YOU:What’s the most misunderstood thing about men today?Comment below we read everything.If you found this powerful, LIKE, SHARE & SUBSCRIBE.Turn on notifications for weekly conversations that shift your mindset.mens mental health, emotional maturity, masculinity podcast, self leadership, AI and future of work, purpose and calling#PastorOlaleye#MensMentalHealth#Masculinity2025#NigerianPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful and spirit-filled episode of That’s My Time Podcast, host Tolu Afilaka and co-host Daeola welcome back Ebuka Mic — comedian, youth pastor at Christ Embassy, and passionate soul winner — for a raw, convicting, and transformative conversation about evangelism, the Holy Spirit, and the true heart of ministry.Ebuka opens up about his divine burden for souls and the encounters that have shaped his ministry — from reaching drug addicts to leading cultists to Christ. With unfiltered honesty, he shares how the cry of people should move every believer, and why if you’re not preaching, you may not truly believe.This episode dives deep into what it means to be filled with the Holy Ghost, to walk in boldness, and to live a life fully surrendered to God’s call. Ebuka confronts the misconceptions around ministry, challenges the culture of commercialization in the church, and reminds believers that ministry isn’t about fame — it’s about sacrifice and transformation.Together, Tolu, Daeola, and Ebuka unpack vital questions:Should Christians charge gate fees for ministry events?Why do we have “gospel musicians” but not “gospel doctors”?What’s the difference between success with men and success with God?How can worship stay rooted in reverence, not just vibes?From deliverance stories to revelations about purpose, calling, and obedience, this conversation will stir your faith and reignite your passion for the gospel. Whether you’re a pastor, creative, or believer, you’ll be reminded that ministry begins with compassion — and ends with transformation.Guest: Ebuka Mic — Comedian, Youth Pastor (Christ Embassy) 📸 Instagram: @ebuka_micHosts: Tolu Afilaka — @toluafilaka Daeola — @daeola🎧 Tune in, be stirred, and share with someone who needs this truth.#EbukaMicOn #PastorChrisOyakhilome #ChristEmbassy #SoulWinning #Evangelism #ChristianFaith #HolySpirit #PurposeAndCalling #MinistryNotMerchandise #ChristianPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful episode of That’s My Time Podcast, host Tolu Afilaka and co-host Daeola sit down with Pastor Lokachi of Celebration Church International (CCI) for a raw and inspiring conversation on purpose, purity, singlehood, relationships, honor, and spiritual growth.From his remarkable story of being a stillborn baby resuscitated through prayer, to discovering his calling to ministry as early as Primary 1, Pastor Lokachi shares how passion can point to purpose and how God redirected his journey even after facing rejection at Covenant University.We dive into real issues many Christians wrestle with today:Purpose & Passion: How to discover what God has called you to do.Spiritual Fathers vs Idolatry: The “Daddy” culture at Celebration Church and how Pastor Emmanuel Iren shaped his walk.Church Culture & Gen Z Faith: From Christ Embassy to Celebration Church, and dealing with slangs like “Christocentric Baddie.”Singleness, Love & Sexual Purity: Why love isn’t only logical, enjoying singlehood, and whether Christians should be on dating apps.Money & Ministry: Should music ministers be paid? How to balance God and mammon.Accountability & Friendship: The role of friends in calling out bad behavior and helping pastors through depression.This episode isn’t just about theology — it’s about living out faith in real life. Whether it’s setting high Christian standards, navigating ups and downs in devotion, or enjoying relationships the right way, Pastor Lokachi’s story will inspire you to walk in purpose with purity and confidence.🎧 Don’t just listen — join the conversation in the comments. Share your thoughts on dating apps for Christians, spiritual fatherhood, or singleness in today’s culture.00:00 Intro – Is Pastor Lokachi single?06:58 Stillborn story & early calling to ministry15:12 Idolizing men of God vs real honor18:25 Encounter with Pastor Iren & transition to CCI25:01 Gen-Z church slangs: “Christocentric baddie”30:15 High Christian standards & spiritual growth37:55 Depression, accountability & friendship45:28 Love, relationships & enjoying singlehood1:05:12 Should Christians be on dating apps?1:09:40 Should music ministers be paid? God vs mammon1:14:10 Sexual sin & the value of friendshipGuestPastor Lokachi — Celebration Church InternationalInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelokachi/HostsTolu Afilaka — Host of That’s My Time PodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/toluafilaka/Daeola — Co-hostInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/daeola/ If you loved this conversation, hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this episode with a friend who needs clarity on purpose, purity, and relationships.Drop your thoughts in the comments: Should Christians use dating apps in 2025?#PastorLokachi #PastorIren #CelebrationChurch #ChristianPodcast #ThatsMyTimePodcast #Purpose #SexualPurity #Singlehood #ChristianRelationships #ChristianFaith #ChristianDating #RealHonor #FaithAndCulture Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

🎙️ EPISODE 4 – ADULTING 101: Real Talk on Relationships, Lagos Hustle & Growing UpIn this deeply personal and hilarious episode of That’s My Time, I’m joined by three amazing guests who represent different parts of my journey:Modupe Cole – my cousin, whom I haven’t seen in 18 years!Increase – my university classmate from our Civil Engineering days.Favour Nelson – a top productivity expert with gems for navigating life and work.Together, we dive into what no one really prepares you for — ADULTING. From choosing where to live (Kwara vs Lagos), to food struggles, navigating NYSC, dating in your 20s, and figuring out if work-life balance is even real — this episode is a raw and relatable look at growing up in Nigeria.We talked about:The shock of responsibilities and managing life aloneMaking important life decisions, including relationships and marriageMy cousin dating my close friend 😅The painful lessons I learned in a past relationshipHow many kids we each want 😂Lagos traffic and housing madnessModupe’s inspiring entrepreneurship journey with her crocheting businessIf gospel artistes should charge for ministrationOur future plans, personal growth, and moreIt’s funny, emotional, honest, and full of life lessons you didn’t know you needed. Whether you're 18, 25, or 30+, you’ll find yourself in this episode.📌 Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 2:00 – The struggles of adulting 10:00 – Family, relationships & unexpected confessions 20:00 – NYSC, work-life chaos & productivity 35:00 – Entrepreneurship as a young Nigerian 41:00 – Gospel music, controversy & future plans 47:00 – Outro & final thoughts💬 Drop a comment – What’s been your biggest shock about adulthood? 📢 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and turn on the notification bell for more real, raw and refreshing conversations!📌 Follow us on Instagram for BTS & more: @ThatsMyTimePodcast | @ToluAfilaka#Adulting101 #NigerianPodcast #ModupeCole #LagosLife #That’sMyTime #WorkLifeBalance #FavourNelson #GospelArtistes #LifeTalk #CrochetBusiness #NYSC #Relationships #ToluAfilaka Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Once Saved Always Saved? Tithing? Prosperity Gospel? Speaking in Tongues? We answer the BIG questions Christians are searching for right now.In this powerful episode of That’s My Time Podcast (Season 2, Episode 4), Joshua Tanimowo (@jay_posi) returns for a no-holds-barred Q&A on salvation, giving, spiritual warfare, prosperity gospel, mental health, and deep biblical truth.🎯 We break down:Is "Once Saved Always Saved" really biblical?What the Bible says about tithing (Old Testament vs New Testament)The truth behind the prosperity gospel teachingSpeaking in tongues: Is it proof of salvation?Justification by faith vs worksHow Abraham’s faith shows God’s graceThe Tower of Babel, tongues, and the language of heavenDemon possession vs oppressionWhy some prophecies failMental health & trauma inside the church💡 Key Bible topics covered:Hebrews 7Romans 4Genesis 12John 10:282 Corinthians 5:19PLUS: Healing testimonies, spiritual trauma recovery, and practical advice for growing in faith.👉 If you're tired of confusing theology and want to hear biblical teaching on salvation, tithing, prosperity, speaking in tongues, and Christian mental health — THIS IS FOR YOU.✅ Subscribe✅ Share with a friend✅ Comment your questions below🎙 Host: Tolu Afilaka (@toluafilaka)🎙 Guest: Joshua Tanimowo (@jay_posi)#OnceSavedAlwaysSaved #Tithing #ProsperityGospel #SpeakingInTongues #ChristianPodcast #BibleStudy #Faith #SpiritualWarfare #MentalHealth #Healing #JustificationByFaith #Salvation #ThatsMyTimePodcastWhat now with trevor noah, loose talk, i said what i said, so nigerian podcast, to my sisters,road to 30, modern wisdom, blackflame pod, toni told me, i get gist for you, menism,femi lazarus, Bola Tinubu appointments 2025NDIC new MD Oludare SundayUniversity Governing Council reshuffleMinimum wage increase Nigeria 2025AMVCA 2025 winnersDavido & Chioma wedding 2025 rumors (this one's always hot 🔥)Wizkid new album 2025BBNaija 2025 housematesSuper Eagles World Cup Qualifiers 2025Victor Osimhen transfer newsAFCON 2025 qualifiersEPL fixtures Nigeria timeTikTok Nigeria trendsNigerian skit makers 2025NaijaNoDeyCarryLastFunny TikTok audios Nigeria 2025Property prices in Lagos 2025Lekki new estate projects 2025Abuja land salesHow to start real estate business in Nigeria 2025JAMB results 2025WAEC 2025 answers (trust Nigerians 😅)Scholarships for Nigerians 2025Study visa Canada, UK, USA 2025How to make money with AI in NigeriaChatGPT business ideas NigeriaCrypto trading platforms Nigeria 2025How to start tech career Nigeria Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.