Your Child Is Not Your Co-Parent | part 1

About this episode

Ryan and Mike discuss why modern parenting approaches may backfire for kids with ADHD and emphasize the importance of authoritative parenting.

In this first half of a two-part episode, Ryan and Mike break down why many modern parenting approaches—especially those centered on constant negotiation and seeking a child’s input for every decision—backfire for kids with ADHD. They outline how clear leadership, predictable structure, and authoritative (not authoritarian) parenting create emotional safety, reduce conflict, and support executive functioning. Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube⁠⁠⁠ {{chapters}} [00:00:00] Start [00:00:41] What “co-parenting” your child means [00:03:14] Authoritative parenting overview [00:04:13] Research: structure supports regulation [00:07:42] Research: clarity improves social functioning [00:09:40] Routines, EF, and independence [00:12:00] Why negotiation backfires [00:16:10] Cognitive rigidity & too many choices [00:19:00] Inconsistent expectations worsen symptoms Citations: Baumrind, D. (1991). The influence of parenting style on adolescent competence and substance use. Journal of Early Adolescence, 11 (1), 56–95. Chronis-Tuscano, A., et al. (2011)…

People in this episode

Hosts: Ryan, Mike

Topics covered

• parenting approaches
• ADHD
• authoritative parenting
• emotional safety
• executive functioning
• negotiation in parenting

Keywords

• ADHD
• parenting
• authoritative
• emotional safety
• executive functioning
• negotiation
• structure

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: www.grownowadhd.com, www.adhddude.com

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