Narrative Focused Trauma Care® with Becky Allender

About this episode

Becky Allender discusses her journey of personal healing and transformation through Narrative Focused Trauma Care.

Have you been living within a role for years—only to wonder if there is more of you still waiting to be known? For decades, Becky Allender stood faithfully behind the scenes, supporting Dan's work, praying as an intercessor, helping build what would become the Allender Center. Yet she also carried the ache of being "in the room" without fully feeling she had a seat at the table. In today's conversation, she names the cost of that tension, and the courage it took to step forward. When Becky chose to participate in Narrative Focused Trauma Care—the very framework her husband helped create—something began to shift. Through the steady presence of skilled facilitators and courageous companions, she encountered grief she hadn't fully named and discovered a growing kindness toward parts of herself long defended or hidden. What followed was not only personal healing, but relational transformation. Through the language she gained and interactions she experienced, her relationship with Dan deepened. Repair with her daughters became possible. Her love for her parents softened and expanded. And from that engagement with her story emerged a clearer sense of calling—expressed in her teaching…

People in this episode

Guest: Becky Allender

Topics covered

• trauma care
• personal healing
• relationship transformation
• narrative therapy
• self-discovery

Keywords

• trauma care
• healing
• relationships
• self-discovery
• narrative therapy
• Becky Allender
• Dan Allender

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Allender Center

Books & works: Hidden in Plain Sight

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