You Can't Productivity Your Way Out of Burnout | Dr. Pooja Lakshmin on Why Real Self-Care Is Infrastructure

About this episode

Dr. Pooja Lakshmin discusses the importance of real self-care as infrastructure rather than a product, sharing insights on burnout and mental health for women.

Most women have been sold self-care as a product. Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is here to tell you it's infrastructure. Pooja is a board-certified psychiatrist, New York Times contributor, and author of the national bestseller Real Self-Care: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included. In this episode, she breaks down the four principles of real self-care (boundaries, compassion, values, power), the difference between performative wellness and the internal work that actually moves the needle, and why high-achieving women keep landing in the same burnout loop. She also shares the moment she landed in the hospital after her own bestseller launch, what she had to unlearn about pacing and ambition, and the framework she now uses to make every yes, no, and negotiate. What we discussed: The story of how Pooja landed at the very first Breadwinners dinner seven months pregnant with twins, and why she calls that night the room where strangers became people speaking the same language. Her origin story: growing up the eldest daughter in a South Asian immigrant family where becoming a doctor was decided before she was born, choosing psychiatry against expectations, and the moment at 27 when she…

People in this episode

Host: Alexis Contos

Guest: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

Topics covered

• self-care
• burnout
• mental health
• women's wellness
• boundaries
• compassion

Keywords

• self-care
• burnout
• mental health
• women
• boundaries
• compassion
• values
• power

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Real Self-Care: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included

Places: New York, San Francisco

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