When Your Partner Becomes a Stranger: Renowned Divorce Attorney Marilyn Chinitz Reveals the Red Flags You Didn’t See Coming on Divorce & Beyond #420

About this episode

Susan Guthrie and Marilyn Chinitz discuss the hidden red flags in marriages that can lead to divorce.

Most people who go through divorce will tell you the same thing: "I was blindsided." But were they really? Or were the signs there all along, just not recognized for what they were? That is the question at the center of this conversation, and Susan Guthrie is bringing in one of the true icons of family law to answer it. Marilyn Chinitz, partner at Blank Rome and renowned matrimonial attorney with more than four decades of experience, has sat across from thousands of clients who never saw it coming. She knows the red flags. She knows the financial blind spots. And she does not mince words. Right now, a memoir is taking over the national conversation. Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage by Belle Burden has ignited a bellwether of attention. This book has people everywhere asking, "How did she not see it?" Susan and Marilyn use this moment as a launching pad to go somewhere deeper: the patterns, the red flags, and the financial realities that every person in a marriage or contemplating one needs to understand. Covered in this episode: The red flags hiding in plain sight, including subtle communication patterns, financial avoidance, and how your spouse treats others A client story that…

People in this episode

Host: Susan Guthrie

Guest: Marilyn Chinitz

Topics covered

• divorce
• red flags
• financial realities
• communication patterns
• marriage

Keywords

• divorce
• red flags
• financial blind spots
• communication patterns
• marriage advice

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Blank Rome

Books & works: Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage

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