Mum Guilt, Burnout and Unrealistic Expectations: What No One Tells You

Mum Guilt, Burnout and Unrealistic Expectations: What No One Tells You

May 6, 2026 · 57 min · Episode 110

About this episode

This episode discusses the emotional and identity challenges women face during motherhood with expert Sara Pantry.

There’s a version of motherhood many women are quietly trying to live up to. The calm mother. The grateful mother. The woman who somehow keeps her career, body, marriage, friendships and identity perfectly intact… while raising a child. But what happens when becoming a mother changes you in ways nobody prepared you for? In this episode of The Forties Formula, Amanda Lim and Jasmin Dhillon sit down with author, workplace advocate and matrescence expert Sara Pantry to unpack the invisible emotional, hormonal and identity shifts women experience after having children. From postpartum anxiety and birth trauma to career pressure, breastfeeding guilt and losing your sense of self, this is a conversation about the parts of motherhood women are expected to survive quietly. Because motherhood isn’t just about learning how to care for a baby. It’s about becoming an entirely different version of yourself. And for many women, that transformation feels lonelier, heavier and more disorienting than anyone admits. We talk about: • Why motherhood can feel emotionally overwhelming even when you “wanted this” • What matrescence actually means; and why more women are finally talking about it • The…

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