About this episode

Brandon and Caitlyn share their journey of stepping down from ministry to save their marriage, discussing identity, authenticity, and healing.

In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast , we dive deep into Brandon and Caitlyn’s story of stepping down from ministry to save their marriage. Brandon shares how his identity was completely wrapped up in being a pastor and missionary, creating a double life that allowed him to ignore his sexual brokenness and the pain in their relationship. They unpack spiritual bypassing, the high stakes of coming clean while in ministry, and how the “good Christian boy” facade kept real healing from occurring. This is a raw look at what happens when performance replaces authenticity — and the freedom that comes when you finally let the show stop. If your identity is tied to a role that’s costing your marriage, this episode will challenge everything you’re currently doing. Looking for immediate support in your marriage? The Marriage Crisis Roadmap: Download the free guide here Grounded Union Couples App: Apply for a spot 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage: Pre-order a copy of my book here! Save Your Marriage Webinar: Get lifetime access If this episode resonated with you, we'd love to hear from you! Leave a written review, take a screenshot, and email it to support@groundedunion.com — and we'll…

People in this episode

Hosts: Brandon Doerksen, Caitlyn Doerksen

Topics covered

• marriage
• ministry
• identity
• spiritual bypassing
• authenticity
• healing

Keywords

• marriage
• ministry
• identity crisis
• spiritual bypassing
• healing
• Christianity
• authenticity
• sexual brokenness

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Grounded Union Podcast, YouTube

Products: Marriage Crisis Roadmap, Grounded Union Couples App, 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage, Save Your Marriage Webinar

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