About this episode

This episode explores the underlying motivations behind addiction and affairs, linking them to childhood experiences and emotional challenges.

In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast , we dive deep into the hidden motivators behind addiction and affairs. Brandon and Caitlyn explain why these patterns are never random — they almost always begin in childhood, stemming from loneliness, desensitization, lack of emotional regulation, and disconnection. They unpack approval-seeking behavior, the shame loop that keeps people stuck, and the powerful difference between a dissociative childhood and one filled with emotional presence and awareness. You’ll learn why collecting the “puzzle pieces” of your story is essential, how curiosity replaces shame, and why creating a life you actually love is the real antidote to addiction. If you’ve ever wondered how you got here, this episode will help you see it clearly and choose a new path. Our 2026 Grounded Union 2-Day Workshop: 📍San Diego, CA — In-person & virtual 📅 August 14th & 15th, 2026 Workshop for Couples: Tap here to grab your ticket Looking for immediate support in your marriage? The Marriage Crisis Roadmap: Download the free guide here! Grounded Union Couples App: Tap here to apply Save Your Marriage Webinar: Tap here to get lifetime access Join the waitlist for…

People in this episode

Hosts: Brandon Doerksen, Caitlyn Doerksen

Topics covered

• addiction
• affairs
• childhood trauma
• emotional regulation
• shame
• self-improvement

Keywords

• addiction
• affairs
• childhood
• emotional presence
• shame loop
• approval-seeking
• self-improvement
• curiosity
• disconnection

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Grounded Union, Grounded Union Couples App, Marriage Crisis Roadmap, Save Your Marriage Webinar, Grounded Union Podcast

Places: San Diego, CA

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