Why It Hurts to Hold a Grudge — and How to Let Go with Dr. Fred Luskin

Why It Hurts to Hold a Grudge — and How to Let Go with Dr. Fred Luskin

April 6, 2026 · 39 min · Season 11 · Episode 14

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Dr. Laurie Santos discusses the challenges of forgiveness with psychologist Dr. Fred Luskin and explores its impact on mental and physical health.

Forgiveness might sound simple, but it's hard to let go of the anger that comes with being deeply hurt. Grudges, bitterness, and frustration with life’s unfairness can quietly build up over time and take a real toll on our mental and physical health. As  The Happiness Lab  kicks off a new season on spring cleaning your wellbeing, Dr. Laurie sits down with psychologist  Dr. Fred Luskin , director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, to explore what research says about forgiveness. Why is letting go of resentment so much harder than it sounds? And what does it really mean to forgive someone? Plus, we revisit a powerful story from the archives that shows what forgiveness can look like in the face of profound loss and why it might be the most radical act of self-care we can take. Experts Referenced: Dr. Fred Luskin , psychologist and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects Miroslav Volf , Professor of Theology at Yale Divinity School and founder of the Yale Center for Faith & Culture Katy Milkman , Professor at The Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania Resources Mentioned:  "Put Your Imperfections Behind You: Temporal Landmarks Spur…

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