Finding Your Kinky Match: A Conversation with Kink Matchmaker Shea Primus

About this episode

This episode features a conversation with Shea Primus about the intricacies of finding a compatible partner in the kink community.

Finding your perfect match is already hard enough. Now try finding one who also matches you in the kink department. In this episode, I sit down with Shea Primus, CEO and founder of Upper Echelon Matchmaking, for a conversation about what kinky dating actually looks like when you get serious about finding the right person. We talk about how she went from vanilla matchmaker to scouting FetLife events and kink parties for her clients, the most common mistakes kinky singles make when dating, and what it really takes to find someone who is compatible with both your lifestyle and your dynamic. We also get into her own kink journey, boundaries, and why knowing exactly what you want is the most powerful thing you can bring to the search. If you have been navigating kinky dating and feeling like the odds are stacked against you, this episode is going to shift your perspective in the best way. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you. Connect with Shea Primus https://upperechelonmatchmaking.com/ https://instagram.com/shaeprimusmatchmaker Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call…

People in this episode

Host: Amanda Dames

Guest: Shea Primus

Topics covered

• kinky dating
• matchmaking
• relationships
• boundaries
• kink journey

Keywords

• kinky matchmaker
• dating advice
• FetLife events
• kink compatibility
• dating mistakes

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Upper Echelon Matchmaking, FetLife

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