The Cost of Quiet: Learning to Speak Up After Years of Silence
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Colette Jane Fehr shares her journey of finding her voice after years of silence in a conflict-averse marriage.
Have you ever built a life that looked exactly right from the outside, and felt completely hollow from the inside? This episode is for you. Colette Jane Fehr grew up watching her parents argue in a house where conflict felt dangerous. So when she fell in love with a man whose family never raised their voices, she thought she'd finally found safety. They married, built a beautiful life, had a daughter. And somewhere in the space between the perfect house and the quiet dinner table, Colette started disappearing, one unspoken need at a time. The shift came three weeks after her daughter was born. Colette was sitting on the couch, postpartum and unraveling, while her husband watched golf and sipped wine beside her. She didn't yell. She didn't storm out. She just looked over and understood, quietly and completely, that she was utterly alone. That moment didn't end her marriage. But it started the long, honest work of figuring out who she actually was, and what she actually needed. Colette eventually went back to school, earned her degree in counseling from Rollins College, trained for years in emotionally focused couples therapy, and built a career helping others find the language for…
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