Episode #105: Dr. Richard Dixey on Pre-Conscious Awareness: The Science Behind Every Marital Conflict
About this episode
Dr. Richard Dixey discusses the science of pre-conscious awareness and its impact on marital conflicts.
In this conversation with Dr. Richard Dixey—Oxford-educated scientist, Buddhist scholar, and founder of a London Stock Exchange-listed biotechnology company—we're diving into something that quietly underlies every conflict, every resentment, and every misunderstanding in marriage: the fact that we are never actually experiencing reality. We're experiencing a map of it. And that map is coloured entirely by us. Dr. Dixey doesn't just theorize about this. He's spent decades studying the science of pre-conscious awareness—the 400 milliseconds between what happens and what we think happened—and what it means for how we relate to ourselves, our spouses, and the world around us. I'll walk you through: ✅ Why you and your spouse are literally living in different worlds—and why that's not a communication problem, it's a mapmaking problem ✅ The 400-millisecond gap where all your judgments, resentments, and predictions are born—before you even know it ✅ Why controlling your emotions is already too late (emotionality is third in the sequence, not first) ✅ How pre-conscious processing shapes what we see before we're even aware we're seeing it ✅ Why mindfulness is a fruit of something…
People in this episode
Host: Dr. Luella Jonk
Guest: Dr. Richard Dixey
Topics covered
- marital conflict
- pre-conscious awareness
- communication
- mindfulness
- emotional processing
- technology impact
Keywords
- marriage
- conflict resolution
- emotionality
- mindfulness
- stress
- mapmaking
- technology
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: London Stock Exchange, Oxford
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