The Reality of Adult Friendship: Here’s Why You’re Lonely & How to Make Real Friends as an Adult

The Reality of Adult Friendship: Here’s Why You’re Lonely & How to Make Real Friends as an Adult

May 7, 2026 · 1h 19m · Episode 393

About this episode

Mel Robbins discusses the challenges of adult friendship and how to foster deeper connections with guest Kasley Killam.

If you’ve ever felt like making friends as an adult feels impossible, or you’ve looked around and thought, "Where did all my friends go?" – you are not alone. Or maybe you have friends, and you want deeper connections, but you don’t know how to create it without forcing it. Friendship is hard right now. Which is why today, Mel is sitting down with Harvard-trained social scientist and bestselling author, Kasley Killam, who has spent the last 15 years researching friendship, connection, and loneliness. Have you ever wondered why the friendships that once felt close now feel distant? Why you genuinely want to see people more, but somehow always end up canceling? Or why making new friends as an adult feels so forced and exhausting when it never used to? There's a reason for all of that. And today, Kasley is giving you the answer. She is also raising the stakes on friendship and explaining why social health is the missing key to living a longer, healthier, and happier life. Kasley has conducted positive psychology research at the University of Pennsylvania and launched an award-winning initiative at Stanford that promotes empathy and kindness. And in this conversation, she’s here to…

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