Debra Soh on Why Men and Women Are Drifting Apart, Dating Apps, and Gen Z

Debra Soh on Why Men and Women Are Drifting Apart, Dating Apps, and Gen Z

From The Michael Shermer Show by Michael Shermer

April 3, 2026 · 1h 30m · Episode 597

About this episode

Michael Shermer interviews neuroscientist Debra Soh about her book on the decline of sex and intimacy in modern society.

Fewer people are having sex, fewer are forming lasting relationships, and many feel more isolated than ever. Why? Michael Shermer sits down with neuroscientist and author Debra Soh to discuss her new book Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy . They talk about the so-called sex recession, why modern dating feels so broken, and how social media, pornography, AI companions, and changing expectations between men and women are reshaping intimacy. The discussion also touches on Gen Z mental health, dating apps, the manosphere, marriage, and the broader social consequences of a culture that increasingly substitutes screens for real human connection. Debra Soh is a neuroscientist who specializes in human sexuality and biological explanations for behavior. She received her PhD from York University in Toronto and worked as a scientific researcher for eleven years. As a journalist, Soh writes about technology, health, and the politicization of science.

People in this episode

Host: Michael Shermer

Guest: Debra Soh

Topics covered

  • dating
  • intimacy
  • Gen Z
  • mental health
  • social media
  • sex recession

Keywords

  • dating apps
  • isolation
  • relationships
  • pornography
  • AI companions
  • human connection

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: manosphere

Books & works: Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

Places: York University

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