Why You and Your Dog Wind Each Other Up (And What to Do About It)

About this episode

This episode explores how co-regulation between dogs and their owners affects behavior and anxiety, providing practical strategies for managing this connection.

Does your dog pick up on your anxiety? The short answer is yes, and in this episode I’m explaining exactly how that works, why it’s not something to feel guilty about, and how you can use the same connection to help both of you. Today we’re talking about co-regulation: the real physiological process that connects your nervous system to your dog’s, in both directions. In Episode 47 of The Mindful Dog Parent, I’m unpacking what co-regulation actually is (not just as a concept but as a lived, practical thing on the walk), what the escalating and de-escalating loops look like in practice, and four things you can do to work with the connection rather than against it. This episode is the capstone of the nervous system arc alongside Episodes 44, 45, and 46, and it ties together everything we’ve covered about the stress bucket, the window before a reaction, and being present with your dog. Main Topic What co-regulation actually is The physiological process by which nervous systems influence each other through presence, proximity, and the continuous signals bodies send. Research from Queen’s University Belfast found dogs can detect human stress hormones through scent. Your dog isn’t…

People in this episode

Host: Sian Lawley-Rudd

Topics covered

• co-regulation
• nervous system
• dog behavior
• human-animal connection
• stress management

Keywords

• anxiety
• nervous system
• dog training
• stress hormones
• escalating loop
• de-escalating loop
• presence
• physiological process

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Queen’s University Belfast

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