You Became a Dog Parent. When Did You Last Just Be Their Person?

About this episode

This episode explores the erosion of connection between dog parents and their dogs and how to rebuild that bond.

If you’re an overwhelmed dog parent who has lost the uncomplicated feeling of just being with your dog, somewhere underneath the training and the management and the hard walks, this episode is for you. Today we’re talking about the quiet erosion of connection that happens when dog parenting gets hard, and how to find your way back. In Episode 45 of The Mindful Dog Parent, I’m exploring how the shift from “just being their person” to “being their manager” happens gradually and without anyone intending it, and why rebuilding that connection matters so much more than most dog training advice acknowledges. Not just for your wellbeing, but for your dog’s nervous system and the foundation of everything you’re working on together. This is one of the most personal episodes I’ve made. I hope it gives you something real. How the shift happens The gradual drift from uncomplicated love to management mode — how caring deeply and trying hard can, without anyone noticing, turn a relationship into a project. Includes the Maisy story: having her love but not always her presence, and recognising those aren’t the same thing. Why the relationship matters more than you think The nervous system…

People in this episode

Host: Sian Lawley-Rudd

Topics covered

• dog parenting
• connection
• nervous system
• training
• wellbeing

Keywords

• dog parent
• connection
• training
• nervous system
• wellbeing
• relationship
• love

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Mindful Dog Parent

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