About this episode

This episode explores the concept of shame in dog parenting and how it affects both the owner and the dog.

If you’re an overwhelmed dog parent who carries a constant sense of dog parent guilt, this episode is for you. Today we’re going beyond guilt, into something deeper, quieter, and harder to shake: shame. Guilt says “I did something wrong.” Shame says “I am something wrong.” And for so many dog parents, shame is the thing that sits underneath every frustrated walk, every meltdown, every moment of wondering if you should have got a dog at all. In this episode of The Mindful Dog Parent, I’m exploring what shame actually is, how it affects your nervous system and your dog’s, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to begin letting it go. Because you cannot train your way out of shame. But you can understand it, name it, and start to shift it. This episode is rooted in the Nervous-System Aware Dog Parenting™ framework, the approach that underpins everything I teach inside The Dog Parent Path™. And it’s for every dog parent who has ever felt like they weren’t enough. Main Topics What shame actually is - and why it’s not the same as guilt We often use guilt and shame interchangeably, but they’re doing very different things. Guilt is about a behaviour, a moment you can identify…

People in this episode

Host: Sian Lawley-Rudd

Topics covered

• shame
• guilt
• dog parenting
• nervous system
• emotional well-being
• self-acceptance

Keywords

• dog parent guilt
• shame vs guilt
• nervous-system aware
• dog training
• emotional health
• parenting advice

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Lavender Garden Animal Services

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