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Kate Harlow and Amy Pamensky discuss the concept of Good Girl Programming and its impact on women's lives.

In this powerful conversation, Kate has a powerful conversation with her dear friend and Women’s Empowerment Coach, Amy Pamensky to unpack something so many women don’t even realize they’re trapped inside: Good Girl Programming. The invisible conditioning that taught us to be agreeable, accommodating, impressive, self-sacrificing, desirable, and “easy to love.” The part of us that learned early on that approval equals safety. That being chosen equals worth. That keeping the peace matters more than telling the truth. In this episode, Kate and Amy explore how “good girl” conditioning shows up in dating, marriage, career, money, friendships - and even in the way we relate to our own desires. Because most women aren’t actually struggling with love. They’re struggling with the fear of being “too much.” Too emotional. Too ambitious. Too sexual. Too honest. Too powerful. In This Episode, We Explore: What “Good Girl Programming” actually is and how it gets formed How people-pleasing disconnects you from your intuition The subtle ways women abandon themselves to stay chosen Why resentment is often a sign you’re betraying your truth The difference between kindness and self-erasure How to…

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