The #1 Thing That Makes Relationships SO Hard

The #1 Thing That Makes Relationships SO Hard

From The New Truth by Kate Harlow

May 19, 2026 · 44 min · Season 3 · Episode 64

About this episode

Kate Harlow explores the deeper truths about why relationships can feel hard and the unconscious patterns that contribute to this struggle.

Most people think relationships are hard because they haven’t found the right person yet. But what if relationships feel hard because of the way we’ve been taught to love? In this episode, Kate dives into the deeper truth about why relationships can feel exhausting, confusing, triggering and painful…even when there’s love. Because most women were never taught how to be in a relationship from safety, wholeness and alignment within. And that’s what makes relationships feel so hard. This episode is an invitation to understand the unconscious patterns, fears and protective strategies that create struggle in relationships and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself in the process of trying to be loved. If you’ve ever felt anxious in love, afraid of rejection, emotionally exhausted from overgiving, or frustrated that relationships feel heavier than they should…this conversation will deeply resonate. In this episode: The #1 thing that makes relationships feel so difficult Why love becomes hard when you abandon yourself The unconscious relationship patterns most women are stuck in How fear, control and hypervigilance block intimacy Why healthy love can initially feel…

People in this episode

Host: Kate Harlow

Topics covered

  • relationships
  • self abandonment
  • intimacy
  • emotional exhaustion
  • unconscious patterns
  • healthy love

Keywords

  • relationships
  • love
  • self abandonment
  • intimacy
  • emotional exhaustion
  • unconscious patterns
  • fear
  • control
  • hypervigilance

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