How To Find Belonging When You Feel Like an Outsider with Vir Das

About this episode

Comedian Vir Das discusses finding belonging as an outsider and the importance of authenticity in his life and work.

In this episode, comedian Vir Das explores how to find belonging when you feel like an outsider. He shares details about his multicultural upbringing across India, Nigeria, and the United States, and his lifelong feeling of never quite fitting in. Vir also discusses his memoir The Outsider, his Netflix specials, and how exhaustion with pretending led him to embrace authenticity, and explores themes of friendship, grief, the healing power of laughter, and the difference between sympathy and empathy. Vir also reflects on balancing ambition with appreciation while staying true to his voice. Exciting News!! My new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available!!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Multicultural upbringing and its impact on identity Experiences of feeling like an outsider in various cultures The journey from Bollywood to Hollywood in comedy and acting Insights from the memoir “The Outsider: A Memoir for Misfits” The balance between ambition and appreciation in personal and professional life The importance of authentic self-expression in comedy The role of humor as a tool for connection…

People in this episode

Host: Eric Zimmer

Guest: Vir Das

Topics covered

• belonging
• multicultural upbringing
• authenticity
• comedy
• friendship
• empathy
• self-expression

Keywords

• belonging
• outsider
• multicultural
• comedy
• authenticity
• friendship
• empathy
• self-expression
• Netflix specials
• memoir

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Netflix

Books & works: The Outsider, The Outsider: A Memoir for Misfits

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