Be the Person You Want Your Kids to Be: Episode 219

About this episode

In this episode, Corey and Sarah discuss the importance of modeling the behavior you want to see in your children rather than forcing values upon them.

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post. In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I talk about modeling the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values. We discussed the difference between being a gardener or a carpenter parent, raising kind and helpful children, and how to trust the modeling process. We give lots of examples of what this has looked like for parents in our community as well as in our own homes. **If you’d like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice. Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them! We talk about: * 00:00 — Intro + main idea: be the person you want your child to be * 00:02 — How kids naturally model what we do (funny real-life stories) * 00:04 — When modeling goes wrong (rabbit poop + shovel story) * 00:06 — Not everything kids do is learned from us…

People in this episode

Host: Sarah Rosensweet

Guest: Corey

Topics covered

• modeling behavior
• parenting styles
• independence
• character development
• kindness
• trusting the process

Keywords

• parenting
• modeling behavior
• character development
• independence
• kindness
• gardener parenting
• carpenter parenting

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Hunt, Gather, Parent

More episodes of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

• FREE Peaceful Parenting Reset · June 12, 2026 · 5 min
• All About Meltdowns: Episode 227 · June 10, 2026 · 46 min
• The Psychology of Peaceful Parenting with Dr. Justin Coulson: Episode 226 · May 22, 2026 · 58 min
• Teens, Tweens and Peaceful Parenting: Episode 225 · May 2, 2026 · 24 min
• You, Your Partner and Same Page Parenting with Martina Nova: Episode 224 · April 16, 2026 · 37 min
• Just Because You Can Doesn’t Mean You Should: Episode 223 · April 1, 2026 · 45 min