Ep. 40 Breaking the Anger and Rage Cycle in PDA & Autistic Parenting

About this episode

This episode discusses the challenges faced by parents of PDA and autistic children, focusing on breaking the cycle of anger and self-doubt.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not a good enough parent…Even though you are trying everything to help your child…This episode is for you.So many parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD, and high-needs children carry a deeply rooted belief:“I’m not doing enough.” “I should be able to handle this better.” “I’m failing my child.”And this belief doesn’t just come from losing your patience.It comes from:• trying everything and not seeing results• watching your child struggle to function• comparing yourself to other families• and living in a constant state of stress and pressureIn this episode, I break down:• Why this belief forms in the nervous system• How conditioning and expectations shape your self-perception• The hidden “effort = outcome” trap• And how to begin stepping into new, life-affirming reframesThis is about understanding yourself more deeply…So you can begin to show up with more regulation, clarity, and compassion.🔗 Read the full blog 🌿 Free Resource: 7 Steps to Regulated & Resilient ParentingIf you want to go deeper into nervous system regulation and learn how to feel more calm, grounded, and confident in your parenting If this episode resonated, share it with another…

People in this episode

Host: Afshan Tafler

Topics covered

• parenting
• PDA
• autism
• anger management
• self-perception
• nervous system regulation

Keywords

• PDA
• autism
• parenting
• anger
• self-perception
• nervous system
• regulation
• compassion

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