Ep. 41 When Your Child Swears or Says Mean Things And It Stings
About this episode
This episode explores the emotional impact on parents when children use hurtful language and offers strategies for managing these reactions with compassion.
When your child says, “I hate you,” or swears at you or says mean things, it can feel deeply personal—even when you understand they’re dysregulated. In this episode, we explore what’s really happening in those moments—not just in your child’s nervous system, but inside of you. Because this isn’t just about behavior. It’s about the beliefs, old wounds, and nervous system responses that get activated when your child’s words land in a vulnerable place. You’ll learn: • Why your child’s swearing and mean words may actually be “fight energy” trying to discharge • How shame in your child can show up as anger, blame, and verbal attacks • Why it feels so personal—even when you know it’s not • The two key reframes that help you stay more regulated in the moment • How to stop taking it personally without ignoring the behavior or suppressing your feelings This episode will help you understand your reactions with more compassion—and give you a new way to meet these moments with more steadiness and clarity. Read the full blog version here. Get the FREE Ebook + Video Series 7 Steps To Regulated & Resilient Parenting With Your Hypersensitive, High Needs, PDA, Autistic, ADHD Child
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- Ep. 38 When Your PDA Child Hits Burnout — and Your Fear About The Future Starts Growing
- Ep. 37 Why Real Regulation Can Often Look Messy With Your PDA, Autistic Child
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