Alone in Plain Sight | Ben Higgins | Episode 405

About this episode

Ben Higgins discusses loneliness and the search for connection in a world where many feel invisible.

Today's conversation is one I didn't expect to have, but I'm so glad we did. I'm joined by Ben Higgins, known from The Bachelor franchise, but more importantly, a man willing to talk honestly about something many of us feel and few of us admit: loneliness. Ben's book, Alone in Plain Sight: Searching for Connection When You're Seen But Not Known , explores what it's like to feel invisible, even while millions are watching. From reality TV to marriage, from church culture to platform pressure, Ben opens up about insecurity, performance, and the quiet fear that if people really knew us, they might not like us. We talk about: The difference between feeling unlovable vs. unlikable Why social media connection doesn't cure loneliness Performative Christianity and losing yourself in the process The courage it takes for men to admit loneliness How slowing down exposes what's actually going on inside Letting the right people speak into your life, and guarding your heart This isn't just a "Bachelor" conversation. It's about identity, community, vulnerability, and what it means to be fully known without performing. If you've ever wondered whether God actually likes you, or struggled to…

People in this episode

Host: the Girl Named Blake

Guest: Ben Higgins

Topics covered

• loneliness
• identity
• community
• vulnerability
• performative Christianity

Keywords

• loneliness
• connection
• identity
• community
• performative Christianity
• vulnerability
• social media

Sponsors

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Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Alone in Plain Sight: Searching for Connection When You're Seen But Not Known

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