About this episode

This episode explores the intense fear of abandonment in relationships and how emotional neglect shapes coping strategies through attention and validation.

In this solo episode of The Trauma Educator Podcast, I explore why fear of abandonment can feel so intense and challenging in relationships and how emotional neglect and misattunement shape a nervous system that learns to survive through attention, validation and performance. We look at how unmet early needs create an internal sense of emptiness and starvation, why receiving romantic attention can feel soothing but never truly regulating, and how performance, controlling behaviours and reassu...

Keywords

• emotional regulation
• internal emptiness
• controlling behaviors

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