About this episode

Samantha Boss discusses the pitfalls of using buzzwords in custody court and emphasizes the importance of documentation over labeling.

You stood up. You said "my ex is a narcissist." And every person in that courtroom over the age of 40 silently rolled their damn eyes at you. Welcome to the dumbest move in custody court. Yet half of you are still going to do it next month. Somewhere along the line, you decided that the buzzwords you learned from a TikTok therapist were going to seal the deal. Narcissist. High conflict. Toxic. Manipulator. Crazy. Asshole. You've been rehearsing it for weeks. You think the judge is finally going to understand. The judge already understood 30 seconds in. They just don't agree with you. And now they're waiting for something they can actually write down. You're not going to give it to them. Because you spent the last three years labeling instead of documenting. This week I'm taking a flamethrower to everything you've been told about how to win in court. You're not special. Your story isn't special. Your ex isn't even that unique. What separates the winners is who walks in with receipts and who walks in with adjectives. I'm laying out the exact data-driven reframes for every common complaint. "He's always late" becomes "18 of 30 exchanges, late 10 to 45 minutes." "She doesn't…

People in this episode

Host: Samantha Boss

Topics covered

• custody court
• high conflict
• narcissism
• documentation
• courtroom strategy
• communication
• parenting

Keywords

• custody
• court
• narcissist
• documentation
• high conflict
• communication
• parenting
• courtroom strategy

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