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Tosca DiMatteo shares a two-question practice to enhance meeting effectiveness and personal leadership.

Today I'm sharing a simple two-question practice that will change the way you lead, the way you show up, and your results. I counsel my clients to ask themselves these two questions before every single meeting, and it works. The first question is: What are my expectations? Oftentimes you have low-key expectations you don't even know about, and this question is about unearthing them and bringing them to the conscious level. Maybe your expectations are too high, or maybe you're painting the worst possible scenario and gathering bits of gossip that confirm your bias that things will go wrong. This type of thing can lead you to walking into conversations under stress and with a defensive approach before it's even started. I share one of the deepest lessons of my life around this topic in this episode. For decades I held expectations for certain people about how they would treat me and show up for me, and I fell into despair every time those expectations weren't met. My healing required me to accept that if I kept holding expectations for people who can't deliver, that's on me, not them. We absolutely get to have standards, and the difference is being clear about who can meet our…

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Host: Tosca DiMatteo

Topics covered

• meeting preparation
• leadership
• expectations
• success definition
• personal development

Keywords

• meetings
• expectations
• leadership
• success
• personal growth

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